When you understand someone's sensitivities and strengths, you gain the power to reflect back their best selves. And everyone likes that, especially when we forget what our best self even looks like. This book will help you see not only the gifts your partner, friends and family brings into your life, but also the lessons they're learning in this lifetime. It gives you tools to support their growth... or sabotage them spectacularly, because you'll know precisely what their emotional kryptonite is. (Please don't do that.) The most attractive trait anyone can have, whether you're a friend, partner, spouse, teacher, or parent, is the awareness of what lights someone up... and what shuts them down. When you know someone's joy buttons and their sad triggers, and you act with kindness and intention, it changes everything. Understanding the numbers gives you a shortcut to that kind of insight.